Head Meets Heart

This course for singles will empower you with all that you need to know to be able to follow your heart without losing your mind.



You can and that's where we come in!

Head Meets Heart (formerly known as How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk) is an empowering and innovative course that will teach you how to balance your head and heart in your romantic relationships.

The entire course is build around two points:

(1) Head knowledge which is what you need to get to know about a partner to predict what they will be like in a long term relationship (all backed by research, of course!).

(2) Heart knowledge which is how to pace your growing feelings of love and closeness in your relationship.

If you follow our simple formula and get to know the right things about a partner you can avoid the love is blind syndrome!

I mean, really, isn't it much easier to enjoy the ride when you actually have a plan?

Learn how to relax and enjoy your relationships because you will be equipped with all the know-how you need!


Who are you guys, anyway?

We get it, you are probably wondering..who are these people? What is this company? Why are they the ones qualified to teach this course?

Well, let us give you some background. My Love Thinks is a sister (or brother :-)) site of www.lovethinks.com. For the past 20 years, we have been teaching people how to have and maintain healthy relationships through our five innovative relationship education programs: e.g. How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk (also called PICK a Partner) and Couple LINKS. Also, through Dr. John Van Epp’s book, How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk.

Tens of thousands of people have been trained to be instructors in our programs and our programs have been taught to over a million people over the last 20 years.

If you’re into numbers and want to nerd out on research, our programs have been empirically validated and published in peer reviewed journals and textbooks. You can read more about our research here.

Also, if you have any questions about us or the company, please feel free to reach out to us at info@lovethinks.com. We’re always available to answer questions.

Take a look inside the course.


What do others have to say?

"After taking your class I am learning to break the cycle and rid myself of those tapes & thoughts that replay over & over in my head about how I don’t deserve to be treated well. I have you in my head reminding me of my worth. I replay everything you taught us back at times when I struggle and I then work through it. Heck I even revert back to the workbook once or more a week. It was the best money I ever spent on me!!!! If I hadn’t taken your class I would have continued on in the only vicious cycle I had come accustomed to for so many years."

- Krista G., Course Participant

"I have to tell you as soon as I left yesterday I called my good friend and we discussed what I learned as well as how we function with the RAM model. Kind of an eye opener when you categorize the process like that!"

- Shannon P., Course Participant

"After many dating situations with some real jerks I decided it was time to take action. Taking the How Not to Date a Jerk/Jerkette workshop turned out to be one of the best things I've ever done. The workshop helped me to figure out who I am, what I value, and what to look for in a potential dating partner. It empowered me to make healthy decisions and helped me to identify the good guys. I would strongly recommend this workshop for any single person as an extremely beneficial tool to add to their toolbox of relationship skills."

- Janelle B., Course Participant


What will I learn?

Here's what you'll learn in the 5 modules:


Learn about the major changes that have impacted the dating world and what that means for you in your relationships. Also, you will be given an overview of the whole course so you know where we're headed.


In this session you will learn about two of the most important areas to get to know about a partner as well as how to get to know these important, yet tricky, things.


You will learn about the three other important areas to get to know about a partner. In this session, you will also learn the detective technique which will equip you with an easy to follow approach when trying to figure someone out.


This session takes you into the heart of relationships. You will be provided with a working definition of trust, that is different than anything you've ever heard before. Three common relationship mistakes will be explained. And you will learn how to build trust and reliance in safe ways, no matter whether or not you have trust "issues".


You will learn about the different types of commitment and how these can help or harm your relationships. Important things to consider when making the decision to live together or not will be hashed out and the importance and power of sexual touch will be discussed.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this course just for women?
HECK NO! This course is for both men and women. Research studies have been conducted on this course and it has been shown to be equally effective with both men and women.
Who is this course for?
This course is best suited for singles of high school age and older. It is a perfect course for people dating, thinking about dating, in a dating relationship, divorced, or widowed.
What is included in this course?
You will get the 5 sessions and a downloadable workbook. You can fill this workbook out right on your computer or, if you're old school, you can print it out and write your answers in. You will also receive self-exploration worksheets to help you dig deeper and graphic visuals of the research talked about in the course!
What if I am unhappy with the course?
We would never want you to be unhappy! If you are unsatisfied with your purchase, contact us in the first 30 days and we will give you a full refund.
When does the course start and finish?
The course starts now and never ends! It is a completely self-paced online course - you decide when you start and when you finish.
How long do I have access to the course?
You have access to this course for an entire year! If your year runs out and you need more time contact us at info@lovethinks.com.
Can I use this for a group?
That is definitely an option. This is a single-user course; however if you'd like to discuss use with multiple participants and associated costs, then please contact us at info@lovethinks.com.

So what do you think?

So, you've given us the once over. What are your thoughts? Are you ready to take charge and be empowered in your relationships?

We sure hope you are, because we have seen people's lives be changed with the concepts taught in this course.

We have witnessed people have "aha" moments where they finally can make sense of their frustrating relationship experiences + then feel like they finally have a plan for their future relationships.

Singles today are left with more responsibility than ever when it comes to dating + finding a healthy partner. This is awesome BUT can be overwhelming.

BUT when your Head and your Heart work together you will be amazed at how easy it is to just sit back and enjoy your relationships! No more overwhelming experience. No more confusion. Just the good stuff.

We wish you lots of love + happiness in all of your future relationships!

From our hearts,

Drs. John Van Epp + Morgan Cutlip

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