Relationship Counseling with the RAM

Counseling relationships with intention so you can get to the heart of the matter.


Relationship Counseling with the RAM provides a plan and comprehensive framework when counseling couples and individuals who are struggling with issues in their relationships. This simple-to-use framework provides counselors and lay-helpers, of all experience levels, with the tools necessary to be thorough and helpful in their counseling relationships.

This course explains the counseling theory and research that is integrated and supported by the RAM. It uses the RAM to provide a framework for assessing and counseling individual or couple clients and their relationships. A five-step assessment approach utilizes the RAM as a visual, interactive model that allows clients to self-assess their relationship with rating scales along with personal and specific details. The relationship counseling method builds off of the assessment to assist clients with mapping out the steps to achieve their desired changes and goals.

The video training provides in-depth explanations of the theory and research of the RAM, the steps for making a relationship assessment, and the steps for continued counseling with the RAM.

The video instruction provides demonstrations of the counseling protocols by Dr. John Van Epp as he works with a married couple. And the course includes a workbook with worksheets that may be copied and used in your sessions.


What will I learn?

Here's what you'll learn in the course:


Learn about the major theory behind the Relationship Attachment Model. You will learn how the RAM is a visual representation of the constructs in relationships, both an objective and projective assessment measure, and how the RAM applies to relationships.


In this session you will learn how to introduce the RAM in a session, how to help clients profile their relationships, how to explain the RAM profiles, explore fluctuations + pacing using the RAM, and how help clients to describe their wishes + aspirations.


You will be taught four easy steps to use when working with individuals and/or couples and their relationship concerns. These four steps will help you to be intentional, focused and effective in your work with individuals and couples. These steps include helping couples + individuals to articulate their goals for counseling, develop a plan, create action steps to execute the plan as well as follow-up and review.

Your Instructor

John Van Epp, PhD
John Van Epp, PhD

John Van Epp, PhD, President/Founder of Love Thinks, LLC is the author of How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk, published by McGraw-Hill, which blends in-depth research with humorous stories to provide a map for making healthy relationship choices. He has conducted numerous seminars and workshops over the past twenty years on topics related to marriage, family, recovery, singlehood, emotional make-up, relationships, and divorce. He is one of AOL's Love & Sex Coaches, and you can visit his AOL Coach Site for online interviews and dating information.

His twenty-five years of clinical experience and extensive research in premarital, marital and family relations have paved the way for his teach-out-of-the-box courses, PICK (How to Avoid Falling for a Jerk) Couple LINKS, Our Home Runs, and Ultimate Spiritual R&R to be taught in thousands of churches, singles organizations, educational settings and social agencies in all fifty states, and ten countries. His courses have secular and Christian versions.

The United States military (Army, Navy, Air Force, and Marines) has been utilizing curricula that have been written by Dr. Van Epp for over fifteen years. He has trained over 6,000 military personnel from all branches of the service to facilitate his programs to more than half a million in the military. He taught Army Chaplains in both the Chaplain Basic Officer Leader Course and the Chaplain Captains Career Course for over ten years, and continues to provide guidance and training to those working with military active and veteran individuals, relationships and families.


He has presented his programs internationally in seminars and conferences, including the Smart Marriages Conference of the Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education from 1998-2010, Singapore's National Conference on Truth and Relationships, the Eastern Educational Research Association, International and Chapter Conferences for the North American Association for Separated and Divorced Catholics, the Annual Conference of the Ohio Association for Family and Consumer Sciences, the National and International Conferences for Beginning Experience, and the Ohio Christian Education Association, to name a few. Both the PICK and LINKS courses are "teach-out-of-the-box" with an instructor course on DVD and are being taught internationally by over 6,000 instructors in counseling and agency settings, public and private junior and senior high schools, colleges and universities, prisons, military installations, extension classes, coalition and community programs.

Dr. Van Epp has worked with many couples in their premarital relationship. His years of clinical counseling experiences and extensive research have been enriched by his previous experience as a founding pastor of a community church and former position as an adjunct professor teaching advanced graduate coursework in marriage and family studies. He has an M.A. in Pastoral Counseling and Psychology, and a second M.A. in Church History from Ashland Theological Seminary, and a Ph.D. in Counseling and Psychology from the University of Akron.

Dr. Van Epp and hisinnovative Relationship Attachment Model, book and relationship courses were awarded the Smart Marriage Impact Award (2008) and have been featured in The Wall Street Journal,

Time Magazine, Psychology Today, O Magazine, and Cosmopolitan; and he has appeared on the CBS Early Show, the O’Reilly Factor, Fox News, and Focus on the Family. He has been happily married for over thirty-four years and is the proud father of two daughters

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This course is not open for enrollment.